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  Marina

  Gabby has helped me through a difficult period in my life and equipped me with the tools to manage my anxiety and fears. She has empathy, cares deeply about her clients and works in a very high standard. She also provides helpful recommendations for additional material and tools in every session. I am very grateful to her because in a relatively short period she was able to make a long lasting impact in my life.

  21-05-2023
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  Stephanie Taylor

  Gabby is literally the BEST therapist I’ve ever had! She has such a great way of helping you to understand your brain and she really helped me though one of the lowest periods of my life. She genuinely cares about her patients and I 100% could not recommend a therapist more!

  07-05-2023
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  Jack White

  Gabby is kind, professional and a great therapist. She opened my mind up to consider different perspectives and had a hugely positive impact on my life. Thank you!

  28-12-2022
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  Leon van Schalkwyk

  I attended four Connect Therapy and Wellbeing secession's with Gabby Kanyo, she was brilliant and very professional, she gave me the tools to handle work stress, thank you Gabby you were brilliant.

  28-11-2022
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  Neel Sethi

  I first saw Gabby this year (February) for OCD. I had physical compulsions to make objects orderly and to keep environments sterile. After 3 sessions, my OCD disappeared! She explained it clearly with a flowchart. Exposure-response prevention (ERP) worked well as my OCD was at an early stage. We discovered that OCD was caused by perfectionism and was a need for control over objects/environment because COVID was an environment where I lacked control of my grades/medicine/future. During the first month with her, I was diagnosed with Transverse Myelitis (TM). She quickly highlighted my positive toxicity, which makes me look positive on the surface. I was diagnosed with a serious neurological condition but acted like everything was okay. I repressed my negative emotions which may have caused TM to occur in the first place – deep anger/hatred. As I didn’t have any negative thoughts consciously, that energy was manifesting itself unconsciously into a physical health problem. She encouraged me to explore that with spiritual counselling. The running before TM was a way to punish me which she discovered from my subconscious mind. I ran on anger back when I had positive toxicity. Now, I have thoughts to run even though I cannot because of TM. It's the mind's way of telling me to release my anger/self-hatred. I have an exercise addiction because it came to a reliance on this to release my negative emotions. She also outlined the paradoxical nature of my mind. It seems that perfectionism caused many problems. The mind wants to achieve and exercise, but the body was too fatigued with TM. So, my next aim with her was to cope with TM. I now assess my fatigue by checking if it is blurry (which means I am tired), so I do a productive action but with low energy/mental stimulation. If I have clear vision, I could exercise or do an activity with high physical stimulation. This is invaluable. She explained that if I pushed through my fatigue, it would increase my guilt/anger. We also made experiments to combat my restlessness with sub-optimisation, ERP etc... My perfectionism was driven by shame. I was ashamed of my chemistry grade, which drove me to waste time appealing and then resitting for an exam I never needed to do (my grade was still good enough for my career). At one point, my body was collapsing after 5 mins of revising. I still wanted to sit the exam as: more people with top grades, extra time, gap year to prepare, amazing tutors, etc. But I couldn’t do it. She helped me let go. This marked a pivotal change in my shame. Also, after one exam, my mind would latch onto another. Even my sports were a distraction e.g taking Ju-jitsu after failing the UCAT (she also pointed that I used an ‘all-or-nothing’ perfectionistic approach–leads to burnout). These were ways to also achieve. It was pointless doing Ju-jitsu in the evening as it was blurry, so I couldn’t absorb anything. She convinced me to let go of Ju-Jitsu which helped with guilt of not going. She helped me discover a lot about myself by recommending ‘ The Gifts of Imperfection’ which lead me to highlighting shame by posting things on Instagram that I was ashamed about. I took videos in one shot and posted them, being authentic and imperfect, rather than editing to make them perfect. Before, I was self-conscious when speaking but now I am not. Instagram also helped me cultivate creativity, gratitude, expressing negative emotions, being in the moment, and a purpose (to be/ make others happy and healthy and raise awareness about invisible illnesses) Sometimes we didn’t have to solve something, she was just there as a listener, a safe place where I could vent out after important events in my life. Gabby was amazing, and I couldn’t be where I am today without her. If anyone is stuck in life and needs help or wants to improve managing emotions. Gabby is there to offer you a warm helping hand! "You don't want to need help to have help"is my motto.

  28-07-2022
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  Abigail Darbyshire

  From the beginning Gabby has been amazing. She is empathetic, and always made it a safe space to discuss anything at all. She questioned my thought patterns, delved deeper into why, how it made me feel and what I could possibly do to make it better. I was anxious, overwhelmed and feeling helpless when I started. Gabby helped me find my mojo, feel confident in myself and gave me tools to use to go forward positively. Thankyou Gabby!

  28-05-2022
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  28-05-2022
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  Charles Frost

  Irrevocable lessons on how I want to be a human being and what it is to be one; Rediscovering love, passion, hope and belief; Committing to listen and trust myself despite the anxiety and doubt screaming from within and without. This is but some of what I have learnt from Gabby. The patience, dedication and unconditional positive regard (+ book/TV recommendations) has frankly been THE foundation from which all my learning this last year has come from. She is without a doubt one of the most curious, understanding and wonderful people I've met in my life and I could not recommend her with words and action enough. Thank you for your time and care.

  28-05-2022
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  Amy Young

  Gabby has given me a variety of tools to cope with feelings of overwhelming anxiety and panic attacks. I feel more like me than I have for a long time! Gabby has a holistic approach to each session and the process to achieving my goals felt like a partnership, she makes you feel at ease straight away. I wouldn’t hesitate to reach out to Gabby again and highly recommend her!

  28-05-2021
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  Poppy Matthews

  5* I couldn't recommend Gabby enough. I was very nervous going into therapy and did not know what to expect, but Gabby is so knowledgeable, caring & friendly, and I soon relaxed in her company which made therapy much easier. Words can not express the gratitude I feel for all the attention and care she has spent with me in helping me feel like me again! .. Thank you :) x

  28-05-2021